The Second Agreement: Don’t Take Anything Personally

The the second agreement of Don Miguel Ruiz’s classic, “The Four Agreements.”

I need a reminder today. So I open his book to that chapter and read:

Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally… Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in. When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world.

Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are according to the agreements they have in their own minds…Taking things personally makes you easy prey for these predators, the black magicians. They can hook you easily with one little opinion and feed you whatever poison they want, and because you take it personally, you eat it up….

But if you do not take it personally, you are immune in the middle of hell. Immunity in the middle of hell is the gift of this agreement.

I’m not there yet. I am way too sensitive and way too vulnerable to the opinions of others. Where I HAVE made progress the last month is that I no longer read articles from a website that published material that upset me too consistently. I took a hiatus from that site. I also go through the equivalent of the FDA security process at the airport whenever I open a book. “Is this going to make me feel worse?” I ask myself, and if I can’t answer the question, or I find myself nodding, then I put it on the shelf to read when I reach a more resilient place.

But what I CAN’T control are the opinions of the people that I’ll run into during the day, those who haven’t managed a severe mood disorder and try to convince me that acupuncture, meditation, and yoga cure absolutely every illness. Or those that say the way I run my house is wrong because usually nothing is organized. I can’t control those situations.

So I sit down and try to soak in as much of Ruiz’s message that will penetrate the gray matter of my brain. He writes:

Even the opinions you have about yourself are not necessarily true; therefore you don’t need to take whatever you hear in your own mind personally…Don’t take anything personally because by taking things personally you set yourself up to suffer for nothing….When we really see other people as they are without taking it personally, we can never be hurt by what they say or do. Even if others lie to you, it is okay. They are lying to you because they are afraid.

There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you take nothing personally. You become immune to black magicians, and no spell can affect you regardless of how strong it may be. The whole world can gossip about you, and if you don’t take it personally you are immune. Someone can intentionally send emotional poison, and if you don’t take it personally, you will not eat it. When you don’t take the emotional poison, it becomes even worse in the sender, but not in you.

As you make a habit of not taking anything personally, you won’t need to place your trust in what others do or say. You will only need to trust yourself to make responsible choices. You are never responsible for the actions of others; you are only responsible for you. When you truly understand this, and refuse to take things personally, you can hardly be hurt by the careless comments or actions of others.

If you keep this agreement, you can travel around the world with your heart completely open and no one can hurt you. You can say, “I love you,” without fear of being ridiculed or rejected. You can ask for what you need.

http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2010/06/06/the-second-agreement-dont-take-anything-personally/

It’s Mother Earth vs. Father Greed in New Pine Ridge Uranium

The emotionally charged documentaryCrying Earth Rise Up!was showcased to a full house at this week’s Sedona International Film Festival in Sedona, Arizona.

Filmmaker Suree Towfighnia and film editor Sharon Karp were on hand for the screening.  “This is the fourth screening of the film,” Towfighnia said. ” We literally finished production just last week.  So I feel a sense of relief and accomplishment.”

The film, narrated by Tantoo Cardinal, focuses on two Oglala Lakota women on the Pine Ridge Indian Reservation in South Dakota.  One is Elisha Yellow Thunder, a young mother with a daughter, Laila, who was born with cloacal abnormalities that causes internal organs to be connected.  Laila’s only functioning kidney fails at age 8.  Elisha’s quest to determine the cause of her daughter’s birth defects leads her to the water on her homeland.  Majoring in geology, she is mentored by Dr. Hannan LaGarry, a geology professor and author of 5 year study on hydrology the Ogallala Aquifer who teaches her to study water and uranium outcroppings on her homeland as a possible cause of the high number of birth defects and stillborn babies on Pine Ridge.  “My little girl’s story is too big not to tell,” Yellow Thunder said.

Water brought Elisha together with Debra White Plume, a frontline activist who is challenging Canadian mining giant Cameo, who operates the Crow Butte uranium mine near Crawford, Nebraska, near the Pine Ridge reservation.  White Plume filed an intervention opposing Cameo’s 10 year renewal license and application to expand their mining operation in December of 2007.  She is the only individual intervener in this case against Cameo.  In the film, White Plume attributes the in-situ leach mining operation at Crown Butte for contaminating the aquifer that flows under her homeland.  Dr. La Garry serves at the expert witness in White Plume’s defense.

“Without water, there is no life,” White Plume says in a quote that is featured on the film’s website. “It’s like Mother Earth against Father Greed.​ ​You’re either for uranium or against it. There is no middle ground.”

“This work is about protecting precious water, for all of us, for Mother Earth and our coming generations,” White Plume said at the Sedona screening. “This film will help tell our truth to the world, all over the world water is in shortage, there are droughts or floods, or water is so contaminated it cannot be ingested by humans. We tell our truth based on our love of our generations.” Her words earned a standing ovation from the crowd.

This is Towfighnia’s second production that features Oglala Lakota activist Debra White Plume.  Her first collaboration with White Plume was a pro-hemp film entitledStanding Silent Nation.

The film is scheduled to screen in Portland, Oregon; Sante Fe, New Mexico; California; Nebraska; Navajo Nation and other venues.

For more information or to host a screening,visitCrying Earth Rise Up!on Facebook.

Read more athttp://indiancountrytodaymedianetwork.com/2015/03/03/its-mother-earth-vs-father-greed-new-pine-ridge-uranium-documentary-159451

 

 

Ecuador Breaks World Reforestation Record

Ecuador broke the Guinness book of records for planting the most trees in one day.
The South American nation deployed legions of volunteers on Saturday to plant as many trees as they could, all over the country.
In an effort to reduce carbon dioxide build-up in the atmosphere responsible for global warming, tens of thousands of people got involved in the mass reforestation over the weekend.
The Ecuadorian volunteers pitched in to plant 647,250 trees in a single day, according to President Rafael Correa.

The Gulf Today reports:

“I have just been informed that we have broken the Guinness record for reforestation,” the president said in his weekly address. He said several different species were planted and that the reforestation efforts took place all over Ecuador, which boasts varied geography from its Pacific coast, high Andean peaks and low Amazon basin.

http://yournewswire.com/ecuador-breaks-world-reforestation-record/#sthash.U1tPBOM8.dpuf